Just as I’m starting to get comfortable being one of the girls–you know, with the girls night out and all of that–I suddenly realize that there *is* a reason why I prefer the company of dudes over girls a lot of times.
The dude’s being vulgar and insensitive, I can handle. It’s a dude thing. Even with them, once in a while all the “Holy Hooters!” becomes too much. But that doesn’t bug me as much as the constant barrage of gossip.
Yes, being a girl, I gossip here and there. And yes, I enjoy hearing stuff here and there. Just like with the guys, a little bit of that is expected. But when it becomes the only thing you hear, it gets a little old.
That, and trash talking about everyone and everything else around you. I mean, I’m a Carlos Mencia fan. I make fun of people too. But, like I said, it becomes excessive, you have to start worndering about the person.
The October issue of Real Simple, “Breaking Your Bad Habits” explains it best.
The Habit: Gossiping
Why You Do It: You try to take the focus off your flaws by exposing those of others. But a person who gossips by habit doesnâ€™t truly believe sheâ€™s good enough on her own.
How to Stop: Focus your conversation on sharing your experiences, such as discovering a new restaurant or your latest vacation. Brush up on current events, music, or sports. This will give you something else to discuss besides other people. Plus, you never know who is listening in on your conversation. If youâ€™re complaining about your coworker, be aware that her best friend might be the woman directly behind you on the train. Keep in mind that gossiping makes you seem untrustworthy. You may even lose friends and professional contacts when people realize youâ€™re a gossip.
Well, there you go.
Besides, it’s a Buddhist thing. All things in moderation. Like I said, I am no saint. I gossip. I make fun of people. I oogle at hot guys. But I don’t think I do it excessively. …or do I?
If I do, can someone please smack some senses into me? Thanks.