Everybody Hurts

I wrote this originally on June 9, a day after the death of Anthony Bourdain, all on my phone. Something I don’t usually do, but I had to get it off my chest. Entering the Anger stage of grief over here. Getting really annoyed at people talking about depression as if you have to be visibly crying and moping in public all the time, or that they should have reached out for help instead of keeping their problems to themselves. It doesn’t work that way. Depression drags you down, makes you feel worthless, useless, and unimportant so much so that...
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Girl Friends, Giving, and Going Home

2017 has been quite a year for everyone. As we’re looking forward to a new year, I’d like to take a look back at this one. Year of Girl Friends Sometimes you just get so busy with your life that you lose touch with your friends. This year, the Universe has determined that I need to be reminded that I have GREAT friends, and I should be connecting with them. My friends Heather and Monica joined me for my usual OC Race series this year. They’re so much faster than me and I appreciate their waiting for my slow ass at...
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Office Music Hi-“Jack”

Jack FM is our office radio as it has been since I started working here 4 years ago. It’s a great station to have for white noise: classic rock on random rotation. After all, “playing what we want,” is Jack FM’s slogan. However, when it’s the only station you listen to 5 days a week, 8 hours a day, for four years, you’d notice that it’s the same damn catalog playing in different order. We lost count of all the times Hazel would whistle the intro to “Patience,” or I would break into basic “Beat It” moves in the middle of...
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Silver Fox Project

OakMonster - Silver Fox Project - Granny Hair

Guys, I’m going au naturel. With my hair color. You know, I’m low maintenance. I don’t really do much of anything, but I do have some beauty routines. Of all of those, the one I hate the most is spending hours at a salon to get my hair colored. I’m 40 years old. I have a house. I have something better to do with my money than coloring my hair. Well, I’m saying this now. This might just be “alternative facts” a few months down the road. We’ll just have to wait and see. Meanwhile, say hello to the Silver Fox...
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You’ve Gotta Have Faith

OakMonster - Flore Amore - To Have Faith - Deviant Art

I can’t help paying my respect to the late George Michael. But I am about to talk about faith. So it is appropriate, right? Well, people’s faith awes me. You see, I am not religious. If you ask me, I’d say I’m Buddhist. I can’t really say I’m a non-practicing Buddhist just because I don’t go to the temple. (Long story.) I am practicing Buddhism in my everyday life. I believe in karma. I try to be mindful. I seek balance and moderation. I want to treat others the way I want to be treated. I was raised in a...
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Changed For Good

OakMonster - Doctor Who - We all change

2016 has been ridiculously colorful, eventful, and emotional for all kinds of reasons–personally, professionally, politically. My job changed at the end of 2015, and it’s been an interesting and fun journey since then. I said goodbye to my childhood home in Thailand in March. Brandon and I moved into our first home in August. I enjoyed springtime in Scottsdale, fell in love with Chicago early summer, and grew to despise the convention/tourist side of Orlando in the fall. In June, after a few years of trying to get the ball rolling, I finally took “Be Kind For Khun Noi” from...
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