We’re child-free by choice.
We don’t hate kids.Â And we make great auntie and uncle. We just like to play with them and hand them off to the parents at the end of the day.
We adore Brandon’s two nieces age 8 and 11. We can hardly wait to hang out with Aurora and James’ 2-year-old Dresden and baby Chloe. Olaina and Justin’s Ella is still too little to play with but we didn’t mind hanging out with her too.
I’m quite sure the fact that they are relations–or practically relations, our tolerance and patience for them are a lot higher than for that of complete strangers’ kids.
However, we don’t offer to baby sit the kids on our own. Well, Brandon is okay with taking Dresden to the park for an hour or two, and Little D and I get along swell playing inside the house. But overall, we never want to be left alone with the young ones for more than a few hours at a time before our patience run out and our heads explode.
We chose to be child-free for a reason. And our friends know it.
Yet, it’s a constant question we have to dodge here and back in Thailand. My dad especially. I haven’t the heart to tell him, so my answer is usually, “I don’t have the money.” My mom’s friends know I didn’t want kids. Actually, and quite surprisingly, they were supportive of that choice.
I started to realize I didn’t even want kids back in college. I still remembered the first time my ex-boyfriend mentioned our future children. That freaked the fuck out of me out but I played along. Hahaha. Yeah, sure, honey, a boy and a girl, right? Wonderful. Let’s name them!
But in my head, Holy shit he already talks about KIDS?! God I can’t have kids?! I don’t want any kids!!
You can’t imagine the relief when Brandon brought up early on when we started dating that he didn’t want kids.
So far, our choice to be child-free has never been a problem in our social life because we can still hang with our friends who have children.
We had Aurora and the kids over for dinner often. And we were perfectly okay with going to the movies with Brandon’s nieces when we were in New Mexico.
On those certain days we weren’t up for kids, we politely decline the invitation for their company. Most friends understand. Some don’t.
We are child-free BY CHOICE. And that choice includes choosing to not be around a child when we don’t feel like it. Because if we want to be with a child all the time, we would’ve chosen to have one.
We respect parents. We do. I mean, we can barely stand up to Dresden’s rambunctiousness for a few hours and Aurora has to do this all day with Chloe clinging on to her? Holy crap! And then there are friends and single parents who also work full time on top of being a mom/dad. I mean, seriously. How do you guys manage all of that?
Props. Mad props to you, parents.
We respect also your choice to have children. And we thank you for bringing your wonderful kids into this world and even share them with us sometimes.
We hope that you respect our choice to not have children–or not be with one when we don’t want to–as well.