When our beloved excuse themselves to disappear into their video games, we call that being a [insert game name here] Widow. For example, I was an World of Warcraft Widow, an EverQuest widow, and most recently a Fallen Earth and Fall Out Widow.
Now, the table is being turned around. I’m making a widower out of Brandon for the next few months.
As in, a Italian Class Widower…
Nora and I are taking Italian lessons together in Irvine on Saturday mornings, starting this weekend on through January.
A USC Football Widower…
If you’ve read my blog long enough, you’d know that Brandon is not allowed to watch any USC game. Not that he would to begin with, the boy’s no sports fan. But anytime he actually sat down to watch, even a few minutes, it all went to hell. It was entirely my fault to have him and his friend sat down to eat dinner and watch the USC-Texas game a few years ago.
A Thrill the World Widower…
It wasn’t supposed to be as big of an event this year with Thrill the World. But then Michael Jackson died. So now we’re in 120% go for this year’s event. I’m still leading the PR/Publicity campaign. And now also a dance instructor. Oh crap, I have to freshen up!
A Big Gala Widower…
Oh yes. The giant work event. A lot of pressure to raise money in this economy. A lot is at stake for the people we serve and for, well, the wellbeing of our non-profit.
And finally, A Thanksgiving Widower…
I’m heading home to Thailand for Thanksgiving for a quick week.
On top of all of this, I have 3 blogs of mine, a Tweet Up social life, and, oh yeah, the monthly cooking challenge.
Thank GOD we are putting long camping trips on hold until spring. With my Italian classes, we couldn’t go far. And with my crazy schedule, I won’t have time to train. I guess the timing works out.
However, the Mister has scheduled us some together time of date nights, our monthly massages at Massage Evny, and game nights. Marvel Ultimate Alliance 2 just came in the mail. /rubs hands together…heeheeheehee…
Am I nuts do be doing all this stuff? Perhaps.
But am I having fun with all the madness? Oh fuck yeah.
This will be one of those years I’ll never forget.
It took Brandon and I 7 years of marriage to figure out that we both like camping. Away from the cars kind of camping.
We have been investing in our camping gear. When we were shopping for a backpack, the staff mentioned that REI does have overnight backpacking classes and that we should check that out.
So we did.
This past Saturday and Sunday, we were in Mount San Jacinto State Park backpacking for the first time with 2 REI instructors, Greg and Michael, and 5 other newbies. One was gearing up for a trip to Bhutan. Two were day hikers, taking things further. One was a budding outdoorsman. And one wanted to learn to go camping in one pack instead of a carload.
Of all of these guys, we were the least in shape. Brandon has activity-induced asthma. And I, like how I was telling everyone else, have a case of activity-induced wuss.
It was no surprise that I came in dead last everywhere we went. However, it was definitely a surprise that I came in anywhere at all.
With 22 lbs. (10 kg) of pack on my back.
And just for perspective, that’s 1/5 of my body weight.
On Saturday morning, we all met early in Rancho Cucamonga REI for gear check at 7 a.m. Bright eyed and bushy tailed, we quickly bonded over the fact that none of us, less one, had done this before. We all had a chance to run amok the stores to be fitted with a pack or finding a tent to rent. I traded in my rain jacket for a kid’s sized lined one and a pair of convertible pants/shorts cargo–both kids size. We had some more talks and split up the foods, and then we were on the road to Palm Springs Aerial Tramway.
The tramway shot us straight up to 5,900 feet (about 1.8 km) from where we were. Thank GOD for the Bonine I took earlier for the van ride from REI, I would’ve barfed on someone during the tramway ride.
We found ourselves a spot on the observation deck to battle with fearless squirrels have lunch. Thankfully, I had the mind to put 2 containers of sun-dried tomato and roasted red pepper bruschettas into one of our gallon zip lock bag as they leaked all over the place. After lunch, we repacked everything and double bagged said containers. We came to find out later that one of the lids had cracked on transit.
Then we hiked down what we have come to call the Switchback From Hell to the Ranger’s station to learn how to use our compass and maps and GPS units and to further acclimate ourselves with the altitude.
Everything reminded me of Brandon’s parents’ house in New Mexico with both the scenery and the thin air. Oh yeah, if I could totally handle Red River, this altitude thing shouldn’t be too bad, I thought as I popped a few Aspirins to cope with the altitude. (The Aspirin trick is a remedy Brandon’s folks always have us do before we started the drive up from Albuquerque. It definitely helped stemmed the altitude headaches.)
The altitude kicked my ass like USC kicked San Jose State’s. (Knew I was going to tie that in somewhere, didn’t ya?)
2 miles (3.2 km) to Round Valley with about 600 elevation gain. It doesn’t sound like a lot but with the terrain and the altitude and the 22 lbs. on my back, that was the longest 2 miles of my life. Brandon and I brought up the rear with Instructor Michael behind us. And then we had to go from Round Valley up another hill, I’m guessing half a mile, to our campsite.
This was where I hit that proverbial “wall”. Marathoners, according to this guy here, hit that when their bodies literally used up everything its got. In many cases, it’s in our heads too, like in “Run Fatboy Run.” And now I knew what that was like.
I wasn’t out of breath like I was earlier on the hike. My legs just said no. My brain stopped thinking about the fact that the campsite was only just 2 minutes away: it just didn’t want me to go anymore.
I told Brandon and Michael that I just needed a minute as my legs refused to move. Seriously, I could see the top of the hill from where I stopped but I wasn’t going to go anywhere.
Without a word, Michael came over, took the sleeping pad off my pack, and continued his slow-and-steady pace up the hill. Somehow, that little weight he took off was like a ton for me. My legs started to work again, and I made it to the campsite.
The spot came highly recommended by the rangers and now we knew why. The view at the site was beautiful, totally worth extra work.
We set up our tents and started in on dinner of pasta with pesto or bruschetta with chicken (chunks in pouches). At this point, the oil from the leaky tub was everywhere and onto everything. Pretty much anything we touched food-wise at some point was oily and/or smelled like the bruschetta.
I took the liberty and named our little group the Bruschetta Brigade.
And they, in turn, named me Captain Crunch for unknowingly contaminated the pot of pasta when I used my sand-crusted gloves to break up the noodles. Whoops.
That night, the Brigade split up into two groups: the Summiteers who would actually summit San Jacinto Peak, and Team Tamarack who would do a mild day hike to Tamarack Valley and then clean up the camp for the Summiteers.
The following morning, Instructor Greg and 3 guys left a bit late on their schedule to summit San Jacinto. Team Tamarack was all girls except for Brandon and Instructor Michael. We cleaned up the “kitchen” and pretty much packed ourselves up except for a day pack for our little hike. I was excited to be walking with just the camera. Photo ops, here I come!
Tamarack Valley was gorgeous. We even spotted some deer while we were out! Michael packed us a lovely little lunch of hard cheese, tomatoes, and salami. The Summiteers checked in on the radio and they were running about 2 hours behind, having left late this morning. So we headed back to the site to finish up. I was still a little winded going back to the site so that deflated me a bit.
So we packed up everything we can, and just as Michael was saying the boys weren’t going to make it back on time, I spotted the Summiteers coming up the hill. I started cheering and the rest of Team Tamarack followed. The Summiteers did so well!!
We helped everyone packed up the camp and got some group shots. And down the hill, we went.
I was feeling pretty good. My toes weren’t hurting all that much and I managed to not get too winded most of the time. I really struggled with the weight going downhill. Every step down was a little scary like I was going to tip over.
Everyone eventually went past me and Brandon, who was helping me down every steep step, except for Francis who injured his toes summiting, Kevin who wanted to actually look at some scenery on the way out, and, of course, the ever patient and encouraging Michael.
This little group did get to witness the marvel that is my agility when I slipped heading downhill. Trying to gain my footing while balancing the weight on my back, I somehow ended up with two trekking poles firmly on the ground in front of me, facing uphill. Zero biff.
I may not have the physical strength or stamina, but I am definitely plus 10 on biff avoidance. That little maneuvering proved to be entertaining for all.
We re-grouped at the Ranger’s station where we first set off. And off we went to attack the Switchback from Hell.
I was out of breath mid-way up the first ramp with Brandon in front of me. Michael was once again right behind me. He said gently to focus on the shadow of the rails cast on the path in front of me and to take VERY small steps. I started my steps and I heard his trekking poles made the rhythmic clacks behind me. Automatically, I tuned into the clacks and got in a pace. I stopped for breaths at every bend.
Michael never once rushed me. Just as he never did on the way in. He waited patiently for me to get a hold of myself, physically and emotionally, and then get moving.
3 turns away. I hit another wall. This one was emotional.
My feet were still going. I wasn’t in pain or anything but my heart was fluttering and my eyes were tearing up. I felt like I either have to start crying or throw up, one of the two. I did neither and I finally got to the station where everyone was waiting for me.
I tossed my pack and sat down to catch my breath. I couldn’t catch one and started coughing. A blessing in disguise really. I was actually crying by that point but I claimed that the heavy coughing got me teared up.
In total, at least what I think I did, the distance I covered doesn’t sound very impressive: round trip (to/from camp and to/from Tamarack Valley) of about 8 miles (13 km). But there was the 700 feet (213 m) in elevation gain in all of this and with only 2 hours to adjust to the altitude when we started out plus the weight of the pack on your back, that there was a true butt kicker especially for those like me who are pathetically out of shape.
All in all, I did it. All 22 lbs. of it. All 8 miles and 700 feet of it.
On my own two feet.
This is probably the biggest thing I’ve ever done in my life so far.
My epic battle with time this week? I guess it’s a draw.
I didn’t start on Monday morning as planned. Because, as you all have heard, we plan and God laughs. Or something like that.
Last Sunday night, the night I wanted to go to bed by 10 to wake up at 5:15 and work on my stuff? I ended up going to bed closer to midnight and woke up the usual call time for morning with hair wash of 5:45.
I was up peeling and scraping the piths off of 25 lemons to go into my first ever batch of homemade Limoncello.
You heard me. Home made. Limoncello. I will write ALL about that over at HmmFoodGood later. But for this post, let’s just say that peeling and de-pithing took many more hours than I anticipated.
So, Monday was regular day.
Time 1. Oakley 0.
Tuesday morning, I’m on the new early riser schedule. Was up by 5:15 and at station with a mug of tea at 5:45. I got a whole lot done. I went to bed at 10 as planned.
Time 1. Oakley 1.
Wednesday morning, still on the wagon. However, the near end of “Bad Things”, the book I’ve been reading, kept me up way past my bed time.
Time 1. Oakley 2.
Thursday, up a little later but was still up. A couple of hours into work, an alien tried to dig his way out of my brain through my forehead and made me nauseous while at it.
Migraine in the office. That’s just great. I couldn’t look at the screen, let alone tolerate the fluorescent goodness. I took an Aleve around 10 and went to ask a coworker if I could go sit in her boss’ office–the boss is on leave.
My coworker let me inside and closed the blinds for me. She went to tell my boss who came over straight away to check on me and told me to just take my time. 20 minutes later, feeling a lot less like a vampire, I crawled out to ask another coworker for a can of Monster to get the caffeine into my system. A couple more coworkers came by to check on me and gave me some neck rubs…and those did help.
Nausea finally subsided around noon. The alien was now, digging more slowly, trying to get out behind my ear instead. I downed 500 mg of Tylenol and continued to sip Monster to get better, fast. After all, I had to go down to LA Live to check out a few venues for staff holiday party at 2 p.m.
Miraculously, that last bit of crazy self prescription did the trick. I toured the facilities pain free and even scored some free brownies from The Farm of Beverly Hills.
That lovely bit of heaven sent me a wee bit over the edge on the jitters. But hey, my head didn’t hurt any more.
Needless to say, it was an early night for me that night.
Time 2. Oakley 2.
Friday, I tried to get up early but my body screamed in protest. So I slipped back to nearly 6 a.m. scrambling out of bed. My body continued to protest with some scratchy throat and sniffles. I’m sure all these smokes in Downtown LA and all over Southern California doesn’t help either. I fought it with echinacae tea, wild honey, and Airborne. By the time I was home, I was spent.
Time 3. Oakley 2.
I was woken up this morning from a lovely dream about my little country house in an orchard with the fact that I couldn’t breath through one of my nostrils. Then both. Getting out of bed was an out of body experience–as in I was out of my body, dragging it. A cup of echinacea tea later, I had enough energy to make breakfast.
And now, I am stewing in my office intentionally. I am hoping sweating all of this badness out might help me feel a little better.
Time 4. Oakley 2.
Things that have gone wrong? Not going to bed as early as I should have. And the fact that I started this new program on the week before my boss goes on vacation when everything needed to be done before she leaves.
Stress + Change of routine + Lack of sleep + not eating much because of stress = System crash.
So here I am, sweating out my sickness in my home office, instead of out in Studio City, rehearsing Thriller with my fellow LA Zombies. Here I am, missing out on a Beat It flash mob. Here I am, sniffling, sweaty, and icky.
All because I want to beat time.
Next week awaits a new battle strategy. But for now, back to the couch and more tea.
I’m involved in many different levels this time, a lot more than I signed up for this year. Well, you know, MJ went and died on us. That brought a lot more to the original “let’s take it easy this year” plan.
I met with Amanda and Mahdroo and our new group of helpers last Wednesday. This year is going to be awesome!
Friday was the second anniversary of my mom’s passing. It gets a bit easier each year, but I still teared up a little when I tell a stranger about her death. (Weird, huh?) This year, I took Friday off to go to the temple with my aunt and cousin. That evening, the cousin and uncle came over for dinner I cooked in my mom’s memory. Some of her favorite dishes: Caesar salad (I cheated and used bottled dressing–mom LOVED table-side service), lasagna, and crepe suzette.
Mom’s favorite part of crepe suzette was the flambe’ing of the orange liquer. I tried to do it this time with my cousin ready with his iPhone camera and Brandon with a fire extinguisher.
I didn’t know how to use the fireplace lighter, apparently. Mom probably was afraid I’d burn my apartment down or something. LOL.
Saturday came with a morning full of errands and off to a barbecue at Nhien and Jonathan’s where I played a sous chef and general helper. Poor Brandon was left to socialize for himself as I was busy assisting the hosts.
With all the busy-ness, I was supposed to start on the new time management plan this morning.
The problem I’m having is that I stayed up way to late to blog and work on Thrill the World stuff that I would crawl into bed around 11 p.m., long past our bed time. Brandon would be long asleep by this point. Of course, being a TV junky that I am, between after dinner and time I got to blog usually is occupied by going through the DVR etc.
Meanwhile, piles of paperworks colonized my desk. Ask me to get a receipt from last week for a return and I will yell at you to leave me the fuck alone. It’s that bad.
One morning, I was up at the first alarm and had at least 20 minutes before I have to be out the door that morning. I did my Thrill the World duties and started on a blog.
It dawned on me that if the evening is to be left for family time, then the morning would be perfect to work on my hobby stuff! So, instead of waking up at 5:40 a.m. (non hair-washing day), why don’t I just get up at 5:15 and get 25 minutes extra time in?
Well, I told myself that when I wanted to wake up to work out daily. That just didn’t happen.
However, working on Thrill the World, my blogs, and other household stuff? These are the things I REALLY do want to work on…unlike a work out which was something I really don’t want to do.
So this morning, I was supposed to be up at 5:15.
Didn’t happened.
Because last night, I was up until 11 p.m. scraping off any possible piths from the peels of 25 lemons to make a batch of Limoncello. Yes, I am making my own. (Blog coming soon).
We call can thank Justin and Olaina for having brought me an authentic Italian Limoncello. Now that I had it, the commercial stuff tastes like crap.
My coworker Rob obliged in bringing me a bag full of his spray-free backyard lemons earlier in the week. I finally started in on the lemons on Sunday around 4:30, took a break at 6:30 to make dinner, and came back to it around 8 p.m. I finished at 11 p.m.
My right arm and hand still hurt from that and I’m one day late on my new time management plan.
The thing about it is, I REALLY want this plan to work. I feel so guilty with all that I have been neglecting. The piano and the guitar have been sitting lonely for months. There are many things I would love to do but never got around to because I seem to keep running out of time.
No more.
I’m determined to fix that. There is no magical time turner for me to use: just discipline. I definiely have been slacking in that department but with all that I WANT to do and NEED to get done, I can no loger afford it.
Drupal Camp LA weekend was AWESOME. I hung out with Annette and Nick from Twitter and Matt from my dot com days. Meanwhile I met new people and made some new friends and found some new people to follow on Twitter. And yes, I learned a TON about Drupal and got myself signed up with both LA and OC Drupal Groups.
I can hardly wait to get going with my first site. Well, I kinda did…but not really. LOL. Need a full geeky weekend, I tell ya.
UCI Engineering quad is an awesome venue for what we had (despite the distance from refreshments and the mystery of hidden bathrooms). Free wifi everywhere was perfect. We didn’t even mind that the best lecture hall they had–every seat equipped with power source, great stadium seating, big ol’ screen–was actually inside a freezer. Well, mild onset of hypothermia might messed with our memories a little.
Oh, a case of nostalgia came free.
We had lunch in the Pippin cafeteria along with their students. We hauled our stuff from classroom to classroom, our brains exploding along the way. Annette and I sat together in a few session and we broke out into giggles here and there, writing “notes” to each other via twitter AND actual note paper.
It was like going to college all over again.
There was even an on campus party afterward. LOL. (We didn’t make it there, but a lot of people did.)
That got me thinking about how far I have come since college.
Obviously, I’ve gotten a lot geekier than when Frenchy taught me HTML back in 1996. I am married, living a good life. Sure, I’m not the high level executive rolling in money, but I love what I do.
Frenchy himself has become an Ubergeek, a swing dancer, and a husband and dad. Other college friends have become a lawyer, a nurse, and a mom. One did achieve his goal of getting out of California and doing fine up in Portland. Another is about to get married for the second time to a fantastic girl.
Today, my little humble food blog, HmmFoodGood, got noticed by some OC folks and nominated for “You’ve Just Been Spotted” award for food/cooking blog at Just-Spotted.com. Hop on over to either place and vote for HmmFoodGood, won’t you? We just don’t want to crawl in last, is all. 😉
And now, I’m checking my schedule for Drupal Camp LA in Irvine this weekend. It looks like my friends Annette and Matt will join me for the geek fest. Any zombies in the area, please come on down to UCI. There’ll be plenty of Drupal Newbie’s brains splattered all over the engineering quad.
My schedule looks like this on Saturday:
9 a.m. – Get Drupal installed at InstallFest
10 a.m. – Intro to Drupal
11 a.m. – Functional Interaction Design
12 p.m. – DrupalChix lunch
1 p.m. – Keynote
2 p.m – I’ll be sitting at the DrupalChix table. I’m a complete and total newbie but they need someone to represent the women in the field, aspired geek like myself included. So, I volunteered, naturally.
3 p.m – DrupalChix panel on how to encourage more women to participate in Drupal.
4 p.m. – Group photo
4:30 p.m. – Theming with Zen
5:30 p.m. – Must have module for your Drupal site.
*KABOOOOOOM!!*
I should have enough brain matter left for two more sessions on Sunday morning plus a couple more hours at the DrupalChix table.
So, if I disappear again after this post, you know why.